I'm Sure There Is Wailing and Gnashing Of Teeth ...

[Sasquatch]

Damn homophobes:

Democrats officially against gay marriage amendment

The state Democratic Party's governing body, at a weekend session in Charlottesville, unanimously passed a resolution opposing the proposed gay marriage amendment to Virginia's constitution.

http://www.roanoke.com/news/roanoke/wb/wb/xp-71457

This, then that. I guess this is what you call having it both ways:

A spokeswoman for Gov. Tim Kaine, a Democrat, said he supports marriage between one man and one woman.

[NCVol]

You might want to reread the article.  I'm pretty sure the democrats oppose an amendment that would prohibit gay marriage, which would put them in the camp that SUPPORTS gay marriage or at least opposes a state constitutional ban against them. 

[GRAY]

here is an example of unions getting exempted from something, which was my original point

http://www.nypost.com/p/news/national/unions_get_pecial_treatment_in_health_AB053CwqPIJlIxXAm37DOM